Passive/Aggressive
I created this blog partly because I like writing and, sadly, partly as a way to combat a growing loneliness. I find that I write more when I’m a bit down, or lonely, as I have little motivation to do much else (bar drinking heavily I guess). Now, this might seem a bit out there but I think I can find a handy scapegoat for my current loneliness- social bloody media.
Alright, so social media is doing crazy-kinda wonders for my career so I can’t diss it too much. But, ironically, it seems ruinous for my *actual* social life! I think this is a lot to do with the way in which people communicate is changing drastically. There seems to be a lot more passive forms of communication, aggressive forms of communication, and little discussion and debate. Before I start to deconstruct this all, I’d like to share a quick example of this with you. I plan to have a party of sorts tomorrow in my east London flat. I mentioned this to someone and their response was “Oh, I must have missed that plan, didn’t see it on Facebook.” This is people’s automatic assumption: if it ain’t on Facebook, it ain’t happening. I’ve tried to plan this party the old fashioned way- by phoning and texting people. I’m not sure how many people will show…
My Issues With Facebook: as detailed in the above example mostly. But I’ve spotted another worrying trend of late. What is up with this “I like” business?! If something comes up on your mini-feed or you spot something on a friend’s profile, no longer do you have to go to the troublesome bother of writing an actual comment about it, now you can simply click “I like” and a little blurb will come up saying “Such and such likes this!” How lazy do you have to be, honestly! If you go to the trouble of constructing a fantastically interesting status update, or you post an awesome link, or whatever, and someone goes “Oh I like that” without actually saying they like it, how are you meant to respond? I truly believe it promotes lazy communication and stifles conversation. It’s such a passive form of communication that it can’t be healthy.
Tell you what, why don’t you add me on Facebook and have an proper conversation with me!
Okay, moving onto Twitter: is it just me or is Twitter such an aggressive form of communication? Good lord, it’s just a barrage of ME ME ME! Constant indulgent status updates and god help you if you want to write a message @someone because it only seems to come up on your profile and if they’re a “followers whore” then what are the chances of them seeing your little message? Zilch. Saying that, I’m still on the bastard thing, “tweeting” away like some poor sod. Add me on Twitter if you like, might be worth a laugh you never know!
I wouldn’t really dream of going on forums to stimulate debate. I spend enough time on forums during my working day that I don’t think I could really deal too well with it all being part of my personal life. So, admittedly, all my personal experience of forums is, well, porno forums, and perhaps they breed a special type of geek. Even on forums, it’s just seems to be people promoting themselves, seeding links to their own product and not really engaging in meaninful debate. You might ask, why bother, but it does seem to work- forums are traffic drivers and no-one argues with tangible results.
Now, let us bathe in spunk and wash off all this coporate griminess. Check out this Sasha Grey video. Unfortunately the one I really wanted to post has been taken off Porn Hub (boo-hiss!) but I think you still get a damn good idea about this girl’s weird lack of gag reflex. Dude, I swear, it is beyond anything I have seen in any porno ever, what this girl can put her throat through!!
***Image from Sasha’s Myspace***
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